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Adore - Loving someone very much.
Affection - A tender and warm feeling toward someone; extreme fondness.
Amore - The Italian word for love.
Amour - A very serious love affair, usually a secret.
Amusement - The state of being amused, entertained, or pleased.
Angel - A kind and lovable person.
Appreciate - To value or admire greatly.
Arousing - To stimulate sexual desire in.
Attraction - The act of associating horniness with a particular person.
Beau - Boyfriend.
Beloved - Dearly loved.
Bigender - Refers to those who feel they have both male and female sides to their personalities, most commonly used by cross-dressers.
Binary Gender - A system of viewing gender as consisting solely of two categories, termed male and female, in which no other possibilities for gender or anatomy are believed to exist. This system is troublesome to transgender people who do not fit neatly into one of these categories.
Bisexual - Refers to a person who is attracted to both people of the same sex and the opposite sex as they are.
Bondage - Restraining an individual using ropes or other devices for sexual reasons. This is often used in conjunction with other sexual activities or role play, but some people enjoy being tied up and restrained enough that simply being bound is a scene in itself. Likewise, some tops enjoy tying enough that it can constitute an entire scene for them.
Bottom - In the context of a scene - a person to whom things are done during a scene. In the context of identity - a person who enjoys being the bottom when in scene.
Boyfriend - A favored male companion or sweetheart.
Butch - An identity or presentation that focuses on masculine traits, including short hair, masculine style-clothing, and sometimes masculine behaviors. Most commonly used to describe masculine lesbian/queer women.
Caress - A gentle touch or gesture.
Chaser - Refers a person who fetishizes a certain type of person, e.g. trans-chaser would be someone who fetishizes and sometimes objectifies transgendered individuals.
Cherish - Have great affection and caring for someone.
Chew Toy - This term describes an extremely casual relationship which is purely on the Physical Axis. The partners are interested exclusively in physical contact and little else.
Court - Another word for dating which refers to the man trying to convince the woman to marry him.
Cross-dressing - The act of dressing and presenting as the “opposite” gender. One who considers this an integral part of their identity may identify as a cross-dresser (also spelled crossdresser). Cross-dressers are usually comfortable with the sex they were assigned at birth and do not wish to change it. Transsexuals (on who intends to transition their sex in the future or has already done so) are sometimes incorrectly described as cross-dressers, but this is inaccurate.
Crush - The object of your desire. To like a person intensely.
Cupid - The god of love, son of Venus; usually represented as a naked, winged boy with bow and arrow.
Darling - An affectionate word for a dearly beloved person.
Dating - The process of spending enormous amounts of money, time, and energy to get better acquainted with a person whom you don’t especially like in the present and will learn to like a lot less in the future.
Dear - Loved and cherished.
Devote - To give yourself fully to another person.
Dominant - One who enjoys taking on the dominant role in the Dominance/Submission dynamic.
Drag Queen / Drag King - Drag is exaggerated and theatrical gender presentation, most commonly used to describe cross-dressing performers. Doing drag does not necessarily have anything to do with one’s sex, gender identity, or orientation.
Draw close - To pull in or closer.
Easy - A term used to describe a woman who has the sexual morals of a man.
Embrace - To clasp or hold close with the arms, usually as an expression of affection. Such as a hug.
Emotion - A mental state of feeling such as love.
Enchant - Attracting someone, or casting a spell over them.
Enjoy - To receive pleasure or satisfaction.
Erotic - Tending to arouse sexual desire.
Excitement - To arouse strong feeling in.
Exotic - Exciting, different. From another part of the world.
Eye Contact - A method utilized by a single woman to communicate to a man that she is interested in him. Despite being advised to do so, many woman have difficulty looking a man directly in the eyes, not necessarily due to the shyness, but usually due to the fact that a woman’s eyes are not located in her chest.
Fairy tale - A fictitious and fanciful story that usually ends with everyone living 'happily ever after'.
Fancy - Has a strong liking or love for someone.
Fantasy - A fictitious, exciting, creative idea.
Feel - To touch; emotion.
Femme - An identity or presentation that leans towards femininity, including traditionally feminine clothing, make-up, and behavior. Also spelled fem.
Fetish - The technical definition of a fetish is something that a person must have to orgasm. In common use, however, a fetish is any strong interest that a person has sexually. Examples include: rope, leather, service, bondage, and pain.
Flame - A sweetheart.
Fling - An affair or short relationship.
Flip over - To be totally infatuated with someone.
Flirt - A sudden jerk; a quick throw or cast; a darting motion.
Fond - Having a strong liking, inclination, or affection.
Fondle - To handle, stroke, or caress lovingly.
Friend - A member of the opposite sex in your acquaintance who has some flaw which makes sleeping with him/her totally unappealing.
Gender Dysphoria - Anxiety and dissatisfaction over one’s assigned gender/sex.
Gender Expression / Presentation - External manifestation of one's gender identity through clothing, haircut, voice or body characteristics, etc. (typically referred to as masculine and feminine or butch and femme).
Gender Identity - One's internal, personal sense of being a male or female, man or woman, genderqueer, etc. For transgender people, their birth-assigned sex and their own internal sense of gender identity do not match
Genderfluid - A general term for non-binary gender identities (GF on FetLife). Overlaps with genderqueer and bigender, implying movement between different gender identities and/or presentations.
Genderqueer - A general term for non-binary gender identities (GQ on FetLife). Individuals who identify as genderqueer may prefer not to identify as either male or female, may see themselves as outside of or in between the binary gender boxes, and may feel restricted by gender labels, categories, and pronouns. One may identify genderqueer but also be comfortable identifying as female or male.
Girlfriend - A favored female companion or sweetheart.
Gorgeous - Extremely beautiful; having great beauty.
Heteroflexible - Similar to bisexual, but with a stated heterosexual preference. Commonly used to indicate that one is interested in heterosexual romance but is “flexible” when it comes to sex and/or play. The same concepts apply to homoflexible.
Heteronormative - Referring to the stereotypical dynamics between primarily heterosexual masculine men and primarily heterosexual feminine women.
Hold - To keep close with arms around the person.
Hold dear - To have a lot of affection for someone.
Honey - Sweetheart; dear. A common pet name or term used as a form of endearment.
Hots for - Slang expression for desire for someone.
Hug - An embrace.
Idolize - To totally love someone and not see their faults.
Inamorata - A female lover.
Indifference - A woman’s feeling towards a man, which is interpreted by the man as “playing hard to get.”
Infatuation - A crush. An object of extravagant, short-lived passion.
Interesting - A word a man uses to describe a woman who lets him do all the talking.
Intersex - Describing a person whose natal physical sex is ambiguous (IS on FetLife). There are many genetic, hormonal or anatomical variations which make a person's sex ambiguous (i.e., Klinefelter Syndrome, Adrenal Hyperplasia). Parents and medical professionals usually assign intersex infants a sex and perform surgical operations to conform the infant's body to that assignment. This practice has become increasingly controversial as intersex adults are speaking out against the practice, accusing doctors of genital mutilation.
Intrigue - A clandestine love affair. To arrouse curiousity.
Irritating Habit - what the endearing little qualities that initially attract two people to each other turn into after a few weeks together.
Kink - Sexual practices beyond what are considered conventional. This includes but is not limited to sadomasochism, Dominance and Submission, sexual role play, bondage, and fetish.
Kiss - To touch lightly or gently on the lips.
Kissable - Open to affection. Easily to kiss, or touch lightly or gently with the lips.
Law of Relativity - How attractive a given person appears to be is directly proportional to how unattractive your date is.
Lick - An erotic movement of the tongue.
Like - To find pleasant or attractive. To enjoy being with.
Limerence - An involuntary cognitive and emotional state of intense romantic desire for another person. The term was coined by psychologist Dorothy Tennov to describe the ultimate, near-obsessive form of romantic love. Limerence is sometimes also referred to as infatuation, or is colloquially known as a crush. In common speech, infatuation includes aspects of immaturity and extrapolating from insufficient information, and is usually short-lived.
Love - A feeling of intense desire and attraction toward a person with whom one is disposed to make a pair; the emotion of sex and romance.
Love at First Sight - What occurs when two extremely horny, but not entirely choosy people meet.
Love birds - Two people in love.
Love story - A story dealing with love.
Loveable - Easily loved.
Lovely - Nice, having beauty, or enjoyable.
Lover - A couple in love with one another; a sexual partner. Ex. You are my friend and my lover.
Luscious - Having strong sensual or sexual appeal; seductive.
Lust - Intense or unrestrained sexual craving.
Magic - A term for a feeling of love.
Make love - To engage in sexual intercourse.
Malice - A desire to harm others or to see others suffer; extreme ill will or spite.
Masochism - Enjoying receiving pain in a sexual context. This pain is generally experienced pleasurably due to the pain/pleasure conversion mechanism in which the stimulus leads to a release of Endorphins creating a natural high.
MtF - The process of transitioning from male to female. Sometimes seen written as M2F or MTF. Some use this term as an adjective ("an MtF person"), while others use it as a noun ("a 27 year old, Asian MtF").
My love - A term to describe one's spouse or mate.
Nag - A man’s term for a woman who wants more to her life with him than just intercourse.
New Relationship Energy - The rush of excitement and emotion that one feels at the beginning of a relationship, which makes one think that this person is the most wonderful person ever and that nothing will ever go wrong ever. When this fades, people often wonder where the magic went and what happened to their relationship.
Nymphomaniac - A man's term for a woman who wants to have sex more often than he does.
Pansexual - Similar to bisexual but with a specific acceptance of transgendered people.
Passing - Being perceived by others as a particular identity, gender, age, race, etc., e.g. passing as straight, passing as a woman, passing as a youth.
Passion - A very strong love for someone.
Pet name - A nickname for your spouse or mate, such as honey, baby, or sweetheart.
Prig - A term used to describe a woman who wants to stay virgin until married.
Primary - This is a polyamory term for the main relationship. Generally, this relationship is a serious, committed relationship. If it is necessary to choose between partners (e.g. one is moving across the country and the other is staying behind, what should you do?), the primary is generally chosen. The primary partner may also have some control over other relationships that their partner has.
Provocative - To provoke, excite, or stimulate.
Puppy love - A crush or new romance between young people.
Queer - General term for any sexual identity or orientation outside of the straight, cisgendered mainstream.
Racy - Suggestive of sexual impropriety.
Rapture - The feeling you get when you are in love.
Relationship - A romantic or sexual connection between two people.
Rendezvous - A meeting at a prearranged time and place. Ex. Let's have a mid-afternoon rendezvous.
Risqu - Suggestive of sexual impropriety.
Role Play - Taking on a role or character. This can be a simple as adopting a trait or as complex as taking on a full character identity complete with name and background and possibly even script. This activity is often used to play out sexual scenes which would be unsafe or unreasonable to do for real but which have titillating aspects.
Romance - A love affair. An attachment or involvement between two people.
Romeo - A romantic man devoted to lovemaking and the pursuit of love.
Sadism - Enjoying the causing of pain in a sexual context. Generally, this refers to pain caused in a consentual manner to a willing masochist who enjoys to experience. One who practices sadism is referred to as a sadist.
Sadomasochism - The practice of using pain to induce pleasure in a sexual context. Physiologically this occurs because the pain leads to release of Endorphins which cause the recipient of the stimulation not to notice the pain but to instead experience the pleasant sensation caused by the Endorphins. This is the same mechanism as the "runner's high" that people receive from exercise.
Scene - A general term used in the kink community to refer to a single sexual encounter, particularly on which has kinky elements or is well planned out.
Secondary - This is a polyamorous term for relationships beyond the primary relationship. These relationships can be every bit as serious as the primary relationship or they can be relatively casual. The important factor is that it is understood that the primary relationship takes precedence over secondary relationships.
Seductive - Tending to seduce; alluring.
Self-love - Creating and giving yourself an abundance of love first and foremost is the key to success in any relationship.
Sensual - Suggesting sexuality; voluptuous.
Sensuous - Enjoys the pleasures of sensation.
Sex - The classification of people as male or female based on physical characteristics, including: chromosomes, hormones, internal reproductive organs, and genitals.
Sexual Orientation - Describes an individual's enduring physical, romantic, emotional and/or spiritual attraction to others. Gender identity and sexual orientation are not the same and not necessarily related.
Sober - Condition in which it is almost impossible to fall in love.
Soulmate - A person ideally suited to another as a close friend or romantic partner.
Spark - The attraction between two people.
Spicy - Slightly scandalous.
Steamy - Hot, erotic.
Straight - Colloquial term for a heterosexual, one who is attracted to people of the opposite sex only.
Stroke - To rub lightly or caress.
Suave - Smoothly agreeable and courteous.
Submissive - One who enjoys taking on the submissive role in the Dominance/Submission dynamic.
Sugar - Slang for kissing or used to describe how sweet an individual may be.
Sugar baby - A nickname for your partner.
Suggestive - Tending to suggest, sexual.
Sweetheart - One who is loved. A term of endearment.
Sweetie - A term of affection or endearment.
Switch - One who is both dominant and submissive depending on the circumstance.
Tender - Soft, vulnerable, delicate.
Thug Play - A kind of sadomasochistic impact play characterized by punching and other "thuddy" impacts on muscular areas such as the chest, upper back, buttocks, thighs, and calves.
Top - In the context of a scene - a person who is in a controlling role during a scene. In the context of identity - a person who enjoys being the top when in scene.
Trans - Prefix or adjective used as a simultaneous abbreviation of both transgender and transsexual. Because it avoids the political connotations of both those terms, many consider trans to be the most inclusive and useful umbrella term. Derived from the Greek word meaning “across from” or “on the other side of.”
Trans Woman / Trans Man - Trans woman refers to a transgender person who self-identifies as a woman, likewise for Trans Man. Considered impolite to refer to someone as "Trans Man/Woman" unless there is some reason why the person's trans nature is relevant.
Transgender - An umbrella term for people whose gender identity and/or gender expression differ from the sex they were assigned at birth (TG on FetLife). The term transgender is not indicative of sexual orientation, hormonal makeup, or physical anatomy.
Transition - The lengthy and complex social, physical, and psychological process of changing from one assigned sex to another. Transition includes some or all of the following cultural, legal and medical adjustments: telling one's family, friends, and/or co-workers; changing one's name and/or sex on legal documents; hormone therapy; and possibly (though not always) some form of surgical alteration.
Transphobia - Fear, disdain, or discomfort with the idea that some people may not fit into the gender binary.
Transsexual - Similar to transgender in that it indicates a conflict between one’s gender identity and sex assigned at birth, but with implications of hormonal/surgical transition. Unlike transgender, transsexual is not an umbrella term, as many transgender people do not identify as transsexual. Transsexual people are transgendered, but transgendered people are not necessarily transgendered.
Treasure - Consider valuable or rare.
True love - Your lover or soul mate.
Valentine - A sentimental card or gift sent on Valentine's game. An affectionate term for your sweetheart, especially on Valentine's day.
Woo - To date or court a woman.
Worship - To adore intensely.
Yearning - A very strong urge to be with someone.
Zeal - A feeling of strong eagerness (usually in favor of a person or cause).
